If you want to know how to get your ex back you must first be ready to confront your own worst enemy who just happens to be yourself. This is not an easy process-finding fault within yourself is never an easy undertaking. But, if you are willing to dive into your own pool of flaws you have a fighting chance of getting back the one that you love.
Confronting yourself, your flaws and the mistakes you have made in your relationship can be difficult to do. Labeling yourself as your own worst enemy does not mean that you are the only one to blame for the breakup of your relationship. As the old saying goes, it takes two to tango, so even if you are more to blame for the break up than your ex, the fact that he or she took your crap for so long allows some of the blame to be laid at their feet. People only treat you the way you allow them too. If they did not like the way they were being treated they should have spoken up in order to fix things instead of breaking things off and ignoring issues that will likely pop up again in future relationships. However, you are the only one that you can change so if you want your ex back it should begin there.
Begin by reflecting on what really went wrong. Most likely, the reason your ex cited for leaving you was not the true cause of the breakup. There are always underlying things that contribute to a relationship falling apart and these things are rarely spoken about. That is the problem. Without open and honest communication there can be no relationship. So, make a list of all the things that you did to contribute to the falling out with your ex. Face the fact that you are not perfect and often times get in your own way and act against your own best interests. Once you do this you will be ready to face your ex and talk about the things that were never before uttered aloud. Do not take all the blame however. (Unless of course you are totally to blame.) Once you are open about your part in the deterioration of the relationship, your ex will be more likely to own up to the part they play in the breakup as well. Now that you have opened up a productive dialogue you can move on from there. If the love that you both felt in the relationship was indeed real, things will move ahead and you can start over again. Do not expect this to happen overnight though. Building a solid and honest relationship takes time. But, since you came here looking for a way how to get your ex back, the time it takes for it to happen will be well worth the wait.